Friday, August 27, 2010
Cougar Cruise 2010
3rd International……Cougar Cruise!
3 Night Bahamas Cruise!
& Optional Pre Cruise Night(s) in Miami!
Dec. 3-6, 2010
A weekend of fun……dining, dancing and partying!
The 1st International Cougar Cruise had almost 300 singles---IT WAS FUN!!!
Join the 3rd International Cougar Cruise, for younger men/older women! We depart from Miami, Florida, for 3 nights of fun sailing to the Bahamas, December 3-6, 2010, on Norwegian Cruise Line’s Norwegian Sky. The cruise is co-sponsored by Singles Travel Company and The Society of Single Professionals, the world's largest non-profit singles organization. Adults of all ages are welcome.
Click here for more details: http://www.singlestravelcompany.com/singles/2010_3rd_international_cougar_cruise.html
Wednesday, August 25, 2010
Major, Major Answer
A bit of trivia and I'm sure you cougars would remember her. We're talking of Miss Philippines 1974 Guadalupe Sanchez. The crowd was impressed at the way this 17 year old answered the question asked of her. Well, if we recall, Guada is from I.S. and a resident of Dasmarinas Village. Her command of English was impeccable in a major, major way.
August 27, 2010 Event
M Session celebrates the sound of legendary Detroit based Label Motown with 4 DJs in 1 night.
From Michel Jackson, Stevie Wonder to Erykah Badu & co.. From classics to up to date remixes & beyond.
The impact of the Motown can still be heard in today's House, Hip Hop and RnB productions where producers rely on chopped up samples of Motown originals over a fat beat.
Time | Friday at 10:00pm - Saturday at 3:00am |
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Location | Museum Cafe (Greenbelt 4) Makati Avenue cr Dela Rosa (Greenbelt 4) Manila, Philippines |
The Perfect Ladies' Night Out
To start a year-long string of fun and exciting events that single ladies can take pleasure in to get to know, have fun and mingle with ideal bachelors, Vivre Fort happily brings 100 BACHELORS The Perfect Ladies’ Night Out on September 24, 2010, 8PM at the SMX Convention Center, Mall of Asia Complex, Pasay City.
The Perfect Ladies’ Night Out is 100% Fun, 100% Hot and 100% Memorable. Here, ladies can witness the 100 Bachelors showcase their outstanding qualities, gifts and talents. Exciting and interactive activities with the bachelors also await the ladies that will surely make their bodies’ temperature rise!
In addition to all of these exciting activities, the event will also feature 100 Booths to shop, splurge and to enjoy which is open from 10 am to 12 midnight.
Ladies will surely enjoy The Perfect Ladies’ Night Out unlike any other party they’ve ever been to. Single men are also welcome to join the event and party with the ladies.
Tickets are available at SM Tickets located in all SM Cinemas. Call 470 2222 for more details.
The Perfect Ladies’ Night Out is 100% Fun, 100% Hot and 100% Memorable. Here, ladies can witness the 100 Bachelors showcase their outstanding qualities, gifts and talents. Exciting and interactive activities with the bachelors also await the ladies that will surely make their bodies’ temperature rise!
In addition to all of these exciting activities, the event will also feature 100 Booths to shop, splurge and to enjoy which is open from 10 am to 12 midnight.
Ladies will surely enjoy The Perfect Ladies’ Night Out unlike any other party they’ve ever been to. Single men are also welcome to join the event and party with the ladies.
Tickets are available at SM Tickets located in all SM Cinemas. Call 470 2222 for more details.
Tuesday, August 24, 2010
Monday, August 23, 2010
Cougar 101
Please see full story at...
http://thenewforty.areavoices.com/2010/07/12/cougar-101/
A warning to my more sensitive readers, this blog addresses items that may be considered risque to some. In an effort not to offend your sensibilities I ask that you stop reading now if you are uncomfortable with the topic of older women dating younger men as I plan to address the topic herein with candor.
** Note that everything I address below applies to consenting adults – preferably those who are 21 or older.**
Okay – so here’s the thing – the topic of cougars has been on mind as of late. I think there are some misconceptions about this whole older woman/younger man thing that has resulted in the cougar label and I think it is time for a bit of a primer on cougars.
Let me start with a few qualifying statements and then I think I should give some general advice to both the older women and the younger men who believe they would like to explore this relationship phenomenon in greater depth. First of all, let me define "cougar" for my purposes herein. You will see various things written about this supposed new phenomenon (hello…ever heard of Mrs. Robinson?). Some will tell you that the label is ascribed only to women who are over 40 who date younger men and others will tell you it is ascribed based on the extent of the age difference.
If you are one of my long time readers you may recall that I visited this topic back in August of 2009 in a blog entitled Coo, coo, ca-choo, Mrs. Robinson. In that blog I questioned whether my student who was dating a girl a few years older than him was dating what he termed "a cougar". Here is the rule of thumb I provided then with a bit of additional clarification:
"Cougars are typically over 35 and date men eight or more years younger than them. There are also other descriptors such as the half your age plus seven rule." Clarification is required here for women in the new forty – if you are an old-school cougar that has historically dated men with a 15-20 year age difference, men within their 40s do not represent cougar activity – that is aging up appropriately. Now if you are 60 and dating a 40 year old man – rock on cougarette!
So, if you are 30 and dating a 20 year old – sorry – you can’t use the label. It is not meant to be used generically to define relationships between older women and younger men. It is used to define relationships between older women who know their mind and are purposeful in choosing younger men…women of a certain age whose purposefulness in seeking younger men almost seems predatory – hence, cougar.
So let’s get specific here. Here are my top tips for those women who want to be cougars:
1) Prepare your mind and body for the role…
Take a good look at cougars- they aren’t out there in polyester leisure suits or mom jeans…they aren’t spending their days thinking about their next needlepoint project…oh no, they are mentally and physically primed for younger men. If you want to be a cougar you need to want, and be ready for, an active sex life and you have to be able to incite a like desire in your prey. This may mean you need to up your game.
Sexy up your look and attitude…exhibit the confidence you have in your sexuality…be confident in your ability to make young men crazy…bring your "A" game.
2) Finding good hunting grounds...
It has been my experience that cougars exude an attitude that draws their prey in regardless of the environment, but for first-timers some words of advice are required. If you are feeling your inner cougar but your cougar energy isn’t being acted upon, find a way to put your intent out there. These days the cougar label is fairly well-known. Don’t be afraid to say you are a cougar out loud…or at least say you are interested in dating younger men. If you are on the dating scene either face-to-face or online – throw it out there straight away…don’t hem and haw…don’t try and delicately reference it…call it out – trust me, it is almost universally well-received by younger men. Cougar hunting grounds are akin to the Field of Dreams…"if you build it, they will come." Your attitude sets the stage – put out the vibe and you will be amazed at the response – the cougar has a special allure to younger men whose sex drive is on overdrive.
3) Careful what you wish for…
Being a cougar is easiest when the focus is not on long-term relationships. If a long term relationship is what you are after you really need to say that up front and, depending upon your age difference, you need to consider whether you will both be able to satisfy each others’ life goals and timelines (i.e., does he want children, do you plan on retiring soon, etc.). Having walked this walk I encourage you to think long and hard about relationships that involve two folks in different stages of their lives.
Also, for those cougars with their feet squarely situated in the "just want to have fun" arena, be advised that young men can often find the freedom they feel with a cougar to be more alluring than dealing with a "real" relationship with someone closer to their own age. You may be romping along merrily when you hear the dreaded "L" word from your adorable playmate. Herein you have a responsibility to the younger man who apparently has taken quite seriously the fun you are having…your sex life should not result in emotional damage to others…in this one area the older needs to equate with the wiser.
The bottom line – the key to successful cougaring is expectation management. Both parties need to be on the same page and when there is an indication that they are not, it is up to the older of the two to deliver some level of clarity. With the label of cougar comes a responsibility to all other cougars that one act with some baseline standard of morality.
Now, for those men who are looking to be cougar prey a few advisements:
1) Smooth up your approach…
Even though cougars tend to be intently focused on the sex with younger men, sometimes younger men confuse this intent with an ability to shortcut even the most basic niceties of the mating dance. This is a rookie mistake. Smooth up your approach…show interest and let it evolve into what it will be over hours not minutes. If you approach a cougar straight out the gate and ask her if she would like to have sex with you, you are likely to experience a fairly profound strike-out. Now note, should you look like a Chippendale dancer and hit the right woman at the right time with the "just ask" approach you may be successful…but, most real men don’t look like Chippendale dancers.
2) Understand the playing field…
Assume nothing. While you need not spend too much time on your first or second interaction with a cougar defining expectations, it is important you do so before your interaction becomes a regular thing. A lot of emotion can be tied to sex – on both sides. Recognize your role in the expectation management piece mentioned above as well. Most cougars have no interest in long-term dalliances, but may expect you to be at least monogamous in the frame of a short-term dalliance. Plus, safe sex is an issue these days with STDs making a comeback with a vengeance – be ready to pony up on this front.
3) Don’t try and hold on to a cougar’s tail…
Cougars are, by their nature, not afraid to buck convention. They live in a place where their confidence and sense-of-self trumps others’ judgments of their choices. Don’t ever try and hold on to a cougar’s tail to keep her in one place – it is not only anti-cougar it is generally anti-all healthy relationships. Cougars stay because they are intrigued and entertained – keep your game fresh. Most cougars have been around enough to have learned some tricks – be prepared to teach them new tricks. A cougar’s mentality does not reside in the static experiences in life – it is on the edge and to keep a cougar happy keep reassessing the edge.
So there you have it – Cougar 101.
When it is all said and done, I will willingly acknowledge that age is decidedly relative. Some folks are just not meant to partner with folks their own age and that is okay – be it short-term or long-term. If your relationship (however you define that term) works well for you and your partner and no one is getting hurt then enjoy it and make no apologies – and don’t feel a need to wear any labels. Life is short and sometimes happiness can be found in unexpected places. ;-)
Day three hundred and seventy-two of the new forty – obla di obla da
Ms. C
http://thenewforty.areavoices.com/2010/07/12/cougar-101/
A warning to my more sensitive readers, this blog addresses items that may be considered risque to some. In an effort not to offend your sensibilities I ask that you stop reading now if you are uncomfortable with the topic of older women dating younger men as I plan to address the topic herein with candor.
** Note that everything I address below applies to consenting adults – preferably those who are 21 or older.**
Okay – so here’s the thing – the topic of cougars has been on mind as of late. I think there are some misconceptions about this whole older woman/younger man thing that has resulted in the cougar label and I think it is time for a bit of a primer on cougars.
Let me start with a few qualifying statements and then I think I should give some general advice to both the older women and the younger men who believe they would like to explore this relationship phenomenon in greater depth. First of all, let me define "cougar" for my purposes herein. You will see various things written about this supposed new phenomenon (hello…ever heard of Mrs. Robinson?). Some will tell you that the label is ascribed only to women who are over 40 who date younger men and others will tell you it is ascribed based on the extent of the age difference.
If you are one of my long time readers you may recall that I visited this topic back in August of 2009 in a blog entitled Coo, coo, ca-choo, Mrs. Robinson. In that blog I questioned whether my student who was dating a girl a few years older than him was dating what he termed "a cougar". Here is the rule of thumb I provided then with a bit of additional clarification:
"Cougars are typically over 35 and date men eight or more years younger than them. There are also other descriptors such as the half your age plus seven rule." Clarification is required here for women in the new forty – if you are an old-school cougar that has historically dated men with a 15-20 year age difference, men within their 40s do not represent cougar activity – that is aging up appropriately. Now if you are 60 and dating a 40 year old man – rock on cougarette!
So, if you are 30 and dating a 20 year old – sorry – you can’t use the label. It is not meant to be used generically to define relationships between older women and younger men. It is used to define relationships between older women who know their mind and are purposeful in choosing younger men…women of a certain age whose purposefulness in seeking younger men almost seems predatory – hence, cougar.
So let’s get specific here. Here are my top tips for those women who want to be cougars:
1) Prepare your mind and body for the role…
Take a good look at cougars- they aren’t out there in polyester leisure suits or mom jeans…they aren’t spending their days thinking about their next needlepoint project…oh no, they are mentally and physically primed for younger men. If you want to be a cougar you need to want, and be ready for, an active sex life and you have to be able to incite a like desire in your prey. This may mean you need to up your game.
Sexy up your look and attitude…exhibit the confidence you have in your sexuality…be confident in your ability to make young men crazy…bring your "A" game.
2) Finding good hunting grounds...
It has been my experience that cougars exude an attitude that draws their prey in regardless of the environment, but for first-timers some words of advice are required. If you are feeling your inner cougar but your cougar energy isn’t being acted upon, find a way to put your intent out there. These days the cougar label is fairly well-known. Don’t be afraid to say you are a cougar out loud…or at least say you are interested in dating younger men. If you are on the dating scene either face-to-face or online – throw it out there straight away…don’t hem and haw…don’t try and delicately reference it…call it out – trust me, it is almost universally well-received by younger men. Cougar hunting grounds are akin to the Field of Dreams…"if you build it, they will come." Your attitude sets the stage – put out the vibe and you will be amazed at the response – the cougar has a special allure to younger men whose sex drive is on overdrive.
3) Careful what you wish for…
Being a cougar is easiest when the focus is not on long-term relationships. If a long term relationship is what you are after you really need to say that up front and, depending upon your age difference, you need to consider whether you will both be able to satisfy each others’ life goals and timelines (i.e., does he want children, do you plan on retiring soon, etc.). Having walked this walk I encourage you to think long and hard about relationships that involve two folks in different stages of their lives.
Also, for those cougars with their feet squarely situated in the "just want to have fun" arena, be advised that young men can often find the freedom they feel with a cougar to be more alluring than dealing with a "real" relationship with someone closer to their own age. You may be romping along merrily when you hear the dreaded "L" word from your adorable playmate. Herein you have a responsibility to the younger man who apparently has taken quite seriously the fun you are having…your sex life should not result in emotional damage to others…in this one area the older needs to equate with the wiser.
The bottom line – the key to successful cougaring is expectation management. Both parties need to be on the same page and when there is an indication that they are not, it is up to the older of the two to deliver some level of clarity. With the label of cougar comes a responsibility to all other cougars that one act with some baseline standard of morality.
Now, for those men who are looking to be cougar prey a few advisements:
1) Smooth up your approach…
Even though cougars tend to be intently focused on the sex with younger men, sometimes younger men confuse this intent with an ability to shortcut even the most basic niceties of the mating dance. This is a rookie mistake. Smooth up your approach…show interest and let it evolve into what it will be over hours not minutes. If you approach a cougar straight out the gate and ask her if she would like to have sex with you, you are likely to experience a fairly profound strike-out. Now note, should you look like a Chippendale dancer and hit the right woman at the right time with the "just ask" approach you may be successful…but, most real men don’t look like Chippendale dancers.
2) Understand the playing field…
Assume nothing. While you need not spend too much time on your first or second interaction with a cougar defining expectations, it is important you do so before your interaction becomes a regular thing. A lot of emotion can be tied to sex – on both sides. Recognize your role in the expectation management piece mentioned above as well. Most cougars have no interest in long-term dalliances, but may expect you to be at least monogamous in the frame of a short-term dalliance. Plus, safe sex is an issue these days with STDs making a comeback with a vengeance – be ready to pony up on this front.
3) Don’t try and hold on to a cougar’s tail…
Cougars are, by their nature, not afraid to buck convention. They live in a place where their confidence and sense-of-self trumps others’ judgments of their choices. Don’t ever try and hold on to a cougar’s tail to keep her in one place – it is not only anti-cougar it is generally anti-all healthy relationships. Cougars stay because they are intrigued and entertained – keep your game fresh. Most cougars have been around enough to have learned some tricks – be prepared to teach them new tricks. A cougar’s mentality does not reside in the static experiences in life – it is on the edge and to keep a cougar happy keep reassessing the edge.
So there you have it – Cougar 101.
When it is all said and done, I will willingly acknowledge that age is decidedly relative. Some folks are just not meant to partner with folks their own age and that is okay – be it short-term or long-term. If your relationship (however you define that term) works well for you and your partner and no one is getting hurt then enjoy it and make no apologies – and don’t feel a need to wear any labels. Life is short and sometimes happiness can be found in unexpected places. ;-)
Day three hundred and seventy-two of the new forty – obla di obla da
Ms. C
Lea Salonga needs hubby's OK for bed scene with Aga
By Rachelle Siazon, ABS-CBN.com
Posted at 04/17/2010 11:28 PM | Updated as of 04/18/2010 7:48 PM
MANILA, Philippines - In spite of her nonstop concert tours abroad, international singing sensation Lea Salonga excitedly shared that she already set aside some time for her upcoming movie with her original Pinoy ka-love team Aga Muhlach for around late 2010. It’s the showbiz comeback that she has been waiting for since 2008.
“Now, it’s all about getting the right storyline and the script. Once that happens then madali na lang yun since I know who my leading man is already, that's a given, I already know. And I’ve been texting him let’s do this na. Sabi naman niya, ‘Oo, basta I’ll take care of you. Don’t worry Lea, it’s going to be special for us and for everybody.’ I was like, ‘Okay, ipinangako mo sa akin ‘yan ha.’ So I’m depending on Aga to make it special,” she happily exclaimed during her press con for Bounty Fresh Chicken last April 12.
Contrary to her previous interviews, however, Lea clarified that doing a bed scene with Aga is something she has to discuss first with Chinese-Japanese husband Robert Chien.
“Ay, no! Ayoko, ayoko, ayoko [ng bed scene]. A kiss is okay, and my husband knows it, but anything more than that I don’t know. Of course, I need to ask permission from my husband first out of respect for him. I know Aga and his wife Charlene [Gonzales], but I got to be respectful of him (Robert), too because I have to answer to him at the end of the day, you know. And so, obviously, both of us are going to have to read the script,” she explained.
When told that it has been Aga’s trademark to have controversial love scenes, Lea remarked that she had also noticed how young his leading ladies were in his previous films.
“Never mind kung sexy e, pero bata, mga bagets! I was like, ‘Okay, what’s up with you being paired with somebody who’s 23 or 24 years old? What's up with that?’ You know, I kind of want to do this film with him because then we don’t have to be young. We could just be who we are. And when I saw the Hollywood movie It’s Complicated (starring Meryl Streep and Alec Baldwin), they're older, sexy… They’re so smart and incredibly funny. Why don’t we do a movie with people like that? That it’s about the older ones being savvy and smart, you know?”
If that’s the case, then would she reconsider doing a sensual but artistically done love scene that will give justice to a beautiful story?
“I don’t know okay? The script can be [changed], everything’s up for discussion. I mean, he's 41, I’m 39. You know what, it'll be whatever it'll be. But I’m just hoping that please do not give us puppy love anymore because we have families and children. Wala ng maniniwala if we do a movie where we play pa-cute,” she replied with a laugh.
While waiting for the movie, Lea will be busy with her U.S. tour this summer: Paris Hotel, Las Vegas with Patti Austin (April 17), Casino Morongo, Cabazon, California (April 24), Saban Theater, Beverly Hills, California with Patti Austin (April 30), and Performing Arts Center with Patti Austin (May 1).
MANILA, Philippines - In spite of her nonstop concert tours abroad, international singing sensation Lea Salonga excitedly shared that she already set aside some time for her upcoming movie with her original Pinoy ka-love team Aga Muhlach for around late 2010. It’s the showbiz comeback that she has been waiting for since 2008.
“Now, it’s all about getting the right storyline and the script. Once that happens then madali na lang yun since I know who my leading man is already, that's a given, I already know. And I’ve been texting him let’s do this na. Sabi naman niya, ‘Oo, basta I’ll take care of you. Don’t worry Lea, it’s going to be special for us and for everybody.’ I was like, ‘Okay, ipinangako mo sa akin ‘yan ha.’ So I’m depending on Aga to make it special,” she happily exclaimed during her press con for Bounty Fresh Chicken last April 12.
Contrary to her previous interviews, however, Lea clarified that doing a bed scene with Aga is something she has to discuss first with Chinese-Japanese husband Robert Chien.
“Ay, no! Ayoko, ayoko, ayoko [ng bed scene]. A kiss is okay, and my husband knows it, but anything more than that I don’t know. Of course, I need to ask permission from my husband first out of respect for him. I know Aga and his wife Charlene [Gonzales], but I got to be respectful of him (Robert), too because I have to answer to him at the end of the day, you know. And so, obviously, both of us are going to have to read the script,” she explained.
When told that it has been Aga’s trademark to have controversial love scenes, Lea remarked that she had also noticed how young his leading ladies were in his previous films.
“Never mind kung sexy e, pero bata, mga bagets! I was like, ‘Okay, what’s up with you being paired with somebody who’s 23 or 24 years old? What's up with that?’ You know, I kind of want to do this film with him because then we don’t have to be young. We could just be who we are. And when I saw the Hollywood movie It’s Complicated (starring Meryl Streep and Alec Baldwin), they're older, sexy… They’re so smart and incredibly funny. Why don’t we do a movie with people like that? That it’s about the older ones being savvy and smart, you know?”
If that’s the case, then would she reconsider doing a sensual but artistically done love scene that will give justice to a beautiful story?
“I don’t know okay? The script can be [changed], everything’s up for discussion. I mean, he's 41, I’m 39. You know what, it'll be whatever it'll be. But I’m just hoping that please do not give us puppy love anymore because we have families and children. Wala ng maniniwala if we do a movie where we play pa-cute,” she replied with a laugh.
While waiting for the movie, Lea will be busy with her U.S. tour this summer: Paris Hotel, Las Vegas with Patti Austin (April 17), Casino Morongo, Cabazon, California (April 24), Saban Theater, Beverly Hills, California with Patti Austin (April 30), and Performing Arts Center with Patti Austin (May 1).
MANILA, Philippines - In spite of her nonstop concert tours abroad, international singing sensation Lea Salonga excitedly shared that she already set aside some time for her upcoming movie with her original Pinoy ka-love team Aga Muhlach for around late 2010. It’s the showbiz comeback that she has been waiting for since 2008.
“Now, it’s all about getting the right storyline and the script. Once that happens then madali na lang yun since I know who my leading man is already, that's a given, I already know. And I’ve been texting him let’s do this na. Sabi naman niya, ‘Oo, basta I’ll take care of you. Don’t worry Lea, it’s going to be special for us and for everybody.’ I was like, ‘Okay, ipinangako mo sa akin ‘yan ha.’ So I’m depending on Aga to make it special,” she happily exclaimed during her press con for Bounty Fresh Chicken last April 12.
Contrary to her previous interviews, however, Lea clarified that doing a bed scene with Aga is something she has to discuss first with Chinese-Japanese husband Robert Chien.
“Ay, no! Ayoko, ayoko, ayoko [ng bed scene]. A kiss is okay, and my husband knows it, but anything more than that I don’t know. Of course, I need to ask permission from my husband first out of respect for him. I know Aga and his wife Charlene [Gonzales], but I got to be respectful of him (Robert), too because I have to answer to him at the end of the day, you know. And so, obviously, both of us are going to have to read the script,” she explained.
When told that it has been Aga’s trademark to have controversial love scenes, Lea remarked that she had also noticed how young his leading ladies were in his previous films.
“Never mind kung sexy e, pero bata, mga bagets! I was like, ‘Okay, what’s up with you being paired with somebody who’s 23 or 24 years old? What's up with that?’ You know, I kind of want to do this film with him because then we don’t have to be young. We could just be who we are. And when I saw the Hollywood movie It’s Complicated (starring Meryl Streep and Alec Baldwin), they're older, sexy… They’re so smart and incredibly funny. Why don’t we do a movie with people like that? That it’s about the older ones being savvy and smart, you know?”
If that’s the case, then would she reconsider doing a sensual but artistically done love scene that will give justice to a beautiful story?
“I don’t know okay? The script can be [changed], everything’s up for discussion. I mean, he's 41, I’m 39. You know what, it'll be whatever it'll be. But I’m just hoping that please do not give us puppy love anymore because we have families and children. Wala ng maniniwala if we do a movie where we play pa-cute,” she replied with a laugh.
While waiting for the movie, Lea will be busy with her U.S. tour this summer: Paris Hotel, Las Vegas with Patti Austin (April 17), Casino Morongo, Cabazon, California (April 24), Saban Theater, Beverly Hills, California with Patti Austin (April 30), and Performing Arts Center with Patti Austin (May 1).
Posted at 04/17/2010 11:28 PM | Updated as of 04/18/2010 7:48 PM
MANILA, Philippines - In spite of her nonstop concert tours abroad, international singing sensation Lea Salonga excitedly shared that she already set aside some time for her upcoming movie with her original Pinoy ka-love team Aga Muhlach for around late 2010. It’s the showbiz comeback that she has been waiting for since 2008.
“Now, it’s all about getting the right storyline and the script. Once that happens then madali na lang yun since I know who my leading man is already, that's a given, I already know. And I’ve been texting him let’s do this na. Sabi naman niya, ‘Oo, basta I’ll take care of you. Don’t worry Lea, it’s going to be special for us and for everybody.’ I was like, ‘Okay, ipinangako mo sa akin ‘yan ha.’ So I’m depending on Aga to make it special,” she happily exclaimed during her press con for Bounty Fresh Chicken last April 12.
Contrary to her previous interviews, however, Lea clarified that doing a bed scene with Aga is something she has to discuss first with Chinese-Japanese husband Robert Chien.
“Ay, no! Ayoko, ayoko, ayoko [ng bed scene]. A kiss is okay, and my husband knows it, but anything more than that I don’t know. Of course, I need to ask permission from my husband first out of respect for him. I know Aga and his wife Charlene [Gonzales], but I got to be respectful of him (Robert), too because I have to answer to him at the end of the day, you know. And so, obviously, both of us are going to have to read the script,” she explained.
When told that it has been Aga’s trademark to have controversial love scenes, Lea remarked that she had also noticed how young his leading ladies were in his previous films.
“Never mind kung sexy e, pero bata, mga bagets! I was like, ‘Okay, what’s up with you being paired with somebody who’s 23 or 24 years old? What's up with that?’ You know, I kind of want to do this film with him because then we don’t have to be young. We could just be who we are. And when I saw the Hollywood movie It’s Complicated (starring Meryl Streep and Alec Baldwin), they're older, sexy… They’re so smart and incredibly funny. Why don’t we do a movie with people like that? That it’s about the older ones being savvy and smart, you know?”
If that’s the case, then would she reconsider doing a sensual but artistically done love scene that will give justice to a beautiful story?
“I don’t know okay? The script can be [changed], everything’s up for discussion. I mean, he's 41, I’m 39. You know what, it'll be whatever it'll be. But I’m just hoping that please do not give us puppy love anymore because we have families and children. Wala ng maniniwala if we do a movie where we play pa-cute,” she replied with a laugh.
While waiting for the movie, Lea will be busy with her U.S. tour this summer: Paris Hotel, Las Vegas with Patti Austin (April 17), Casino Morongo, Cabazon, California (April 24), Saban Theater, Beverly Hills, California with Patti Austin (April 30), and Performing Arts Center with Patti Austin (May 1).
MANILA, Philippines - In spite of her nonstop concert tours abroad, international singing sensation Lea Salonga excitedly shared that she already set aside some time for her upcoming movie with her original Pinoy ka-love team Aga Muhlach for around late 2010. It’s the showbiz comeback that she has been waiting for since 2008.
“Now, it’s all about getting the right storyline and the script. Once that happens then madali na lang yun since I know who my leading man is already, that's a given, I already know. And I’ve been texting him let’s do this na. Sabi naman niya, ‘Oo, basta I’ll take care of you. Don’t worry Lea, it’s going to be special for us and for everybody.’ I was like, ‘Okay, ipinangako mo sa akin ‘yan ha.’ So I’m depending on Aga to make it special,” she happily exclaimed during her press con for Bounty Fresh Chicken last April 12.
Contrary to her previous interviews, however, Lea clarified that doing a bed scene with Aga is something she has to discuss first with Chinese-Japanese husband Robert Chien.
“Ay, no! Ayoko, ayoko, ayoko [ng bed scene]. A kiss is okay, and my husband knows it, but anything more than that I don’t know. Of course, I need to ask permission from my husband first out of respect for him. I know Aga and his wife Charlene [Gonzales], but I got to be respectful of him (Robert), too because I have to answer to him at the end of the day, you know. And so, obviously, both of us are going to have to read the script,” she explained.
When told that it has been Aga’s trademark to have controversial love scenes, Lea remarked that she had also noticed how young his leading ladies were in his previous films.
“Never mind kung sexy e, pero bata, mga bagets! I was like, ‘Okay, what’s up with you being paired with somebody who’s 23 or 24 years old? What's up with that?’ You know, I kind of want to do this film with him because then we don’t have to be young. We could just be who we are. And when I saw the Hollywood movie It’s Complicated (starring Meryl Streep and Alec Baldwin), they're older, sexy… They’re so smart and incredibly funny. Why don’t we do a movie with people like that? That it’s about the older ones being savvy and smart, you know?”
If that’s the case, then would she reconsider doing a sensual but artistically done love scene that will give justice to a beautiful story?
“I don’t know okay? The script can be [changed], everything’s up for discussion. I mean, he's 41, I’m 39. You know what, it'll be whatever it'll be. But I’m just hoping that please do not give us puppy love anymore because we have families and children. Wala ng maniniwala if we do a movie where we play pa-cute,” she replied with a laugh.
While waiting for the movie, Lea will be busy with her U.S. tour this summer: Paris Hotel, Las Vegas with Patti Austin (April 17), Casino Morongo, Cabazon, California (April 24), Saban Theater, Beverly Hills, California with Patti Austin (April 30), and Performing Arts Center with Patti Austin (May 1).
MANILA, Philippines - In spite of her nonstop concert tours abroad, international singing sensation Lea Salonga excitedly shared that she already set aside some time for her upcoming movie with her original Pinoy ka-love team Aga Muhlach for around late 2010. It’s the showbiz comeback that she has been waiting for since 2008.
“Now, it’s all about getting the right storyline and the script. Once that happens then madali na lang yun since I know who my leading man is already, that's a given, I already know. And I’ve been texting him let’s do this na. Sabi naman niya, ‘Oo, basta I’ll take care of you. Don’t worry Lea, it’s going to be special for us and for everybody.’ I was like, ‘Okay, ipinangako mo sa akin ‘yan ha.’ So I’m depending on Aga to make it special,” she happily exclaimed during her press con for Bounty Fresh Chicken last April 12.
Contrary to her previous interviews, however, Lea clarified that doing a bed scene with Aga is something she has to discuss first with Chinese-Japanese husband Robert Chien.
“Ay, no! Ayoko, ayoko, ayoko [ng bed scene]. A kiss is okay, and my husband knows it, but anything more than that I don’t know. Of course, I need to ask permission from my husband first out of respect for him. I know Aga and his wife Charlene [Gonzales], but I got to be respectful of him (Robert), too because I have to answer to him at the end of the day, you know. And so, obviously, both of us are going to have to read the script,” she explained.
When told that it has been Aga’s trademark to have controversial love scenes, Lea remarked that she had also noticed how young his leading ladies were in his previous films.
“Never mind kung sexy e, pero bata, mga bagets! I was like, ‘Okay, what’s up with you being paired with somebody who’s 23 or 24 years old? What's up with that?’ You know, I kind of want to do this film with him because then we don’t have to be young. We could just be who we are. And when I saw the Hollywood movie It’s Complicated (starring Meryl Streep and Alec Baldwin), they're older, sexy… They’re so smart and incredibly funny. Why don’t we do a movie with people like that? That it’s about the older ones being savvy and smart, you know?”
If that’s the case, then would she reconsider doing a sensual but artistically done love scene that will give justice to a beautiful story?
“I don’t know okay? The script can be [changed], everything’s up for discussion. I mean, he's 41, I’m 39. You know what, it'll be whatever it'll be. But I’m just hoping that please do not give us puppy love anymore because we have families and children. Wala ng maniniwala if we do a movie where we play pa-cute,” she replied with a laugh.
While waiting for the movie, Lea will be busy with her U.S. tour this summer: Paris Hotel, Las Vegas with Patti Austin (April 17), Casino Morongo, Cabazon, California (April 24), Saban Theater, Beverly Hills, California with Patti Austin (April 30), and Performing Arts Center with Patti Austin (May 1).
Sunday, August 22, 2010
A Knack for Grilling Honchos
Christine Tan is synonymous with the show Managing Asia. Her secret to getting CEOs to open up is a soft and honest approach
By Wong Kim Hoh
ST PHOTO: ASHLEIGH SIM
CHRISTINE Tan sputters and nearly chokes on her prawn dumpling.
'It was not me, I have never posed for FHM,' she declares in mock horror, referring to the men's magazine synonymous with provocative pictures of scantily-clad women.
'And I would never pose for FHM,' Tan adds, in the chi-chi surrounds of the China Club on the 52nd floor of The Capital Tower.
Straightening her business jacket which she wears over a ruffled blouse, she says: 'You have mistaken me for Christine Chan, a lawyer and a stunner.'
Apart from the similar English name, the confusion has arisen because both these good-lookers used to read the news on Channel 5 in the 1990s. But while Chan has disappeared from the limelight presumably to focus on her legal career, Tan, 38, has gone global.
Since joining CNBC Asia in 1999, she has hosted some of the network's most popular financial shows including Squawk Box and Asia Market Wrap.
But Tan is perhaps best known as the charismatic host of Managing Asia, where she interviews CEOs of top firms doing business in Asia. The programme reaches out to 150 million viewers in the continent.
She grimaces at the suggestion that her interviewees might be impressed if they knew she had graced the pages of a lad's magazine.
'You may give the CEOs a heart attack,' she wisecracks. 'I think they would be more impressed with my homework, the questions I ask.'
The Catholic Junior College alumnus never thought she would one day traverse the globe in pursuit of financial stories or grill captains of industries on the secrets of their success or reasons for their failures.
'I've always thought I would end up doing administrative work in a corporation,' she says.
She did not even think she had the gift of the gab.
Although she once played a singing Mother Mary in a Christmas play and was one of three cackling witches in a production of Macbeth, her energies as a student were channelled into more physical pursuits.
She was a school sprinter as well as an adventure camp and canoeing instructor.
'My husband always asked me what happened,' says Tan, who has been married to her university sweetheart, a banker, for 15 years.
She grew up in Serangoon Gardens with her parents and younger brother, a 31-year-old media researcher.
Her father - a retired post office superintendent - was her running coach, her mother - a former secretary - made sure the boys were kept at arm's length.
'She imposed curfews, screened my calls and interrogated boys with questions such as, 'What is your name? How old are you?' 'she recalls with great amusement.
It was while reading sociology and English literature at the University of Auckland that she started to enjoy speaking up and expressing her opinions.
And former newscaster Kenneth Liang - now vice-president of programming and production for Channel 5 - must have been bowled over by her potential when he went scouting for talent in New Zealand. He offered her a job on the spot and when told that she wanted to do a post-graduate degree, threw in a scholarship as well.
She joined the then Television Corporation of Singapore (TCS) in 1994 after completing her master's in sociology and media studies.
She cut her teeth as a reporter, 'covering everything from health to crime to disasters'.
Three years later, she became one of the station's youngest newscasters before moving on to anchor programmes such as Money Mind.
She was primed to play a big role in Channel NewsAsia but quit just a couple of weeks before the news channel launched in early 1999 to join CNBC. Her resignation was a 'delicate and sensitive' affair.
But the CNBC offer was too good an opportunity to pass up.
'It was a journey I had to go on. I would be hosting a global business show. I knew I was being thrown into the deep end but it would establish me as a business journalist.'
She adds: 'Unlike journalists in the United States who cover just one market, we have so many markets, currencies and companies in the region.'
Tan is drawn to the drama of financial news.
'Take the Asian financial crisis. How did something seemingly so small trigger a financial meltdown?' she says, referring to the devaluation of the Thai baht in July 1997 which triggered off a recession in many regional economies.
She made her mark pretty quickly. She was a finalist for Best News Anchor in 2001 and 2002 at the New York Festivals Award.
In 2004, she received the Best News Programme award at the 2004 Asian Television Awards for a series she did with The Asian Wall Street Journal. The same programme also won a finalist award at the 2004 New York Festivals for Coverage Of A Breaking News Story.
A Worldwide Exchange viewer posted this comment about her on the Internet: 'Tan is simply the least self-promotional financial host(ess) on air today. The guests are Asia- and Europe-based analysts whose agendas seem to have been left at the door. Very refreshing... and informative.'
Tan talks with the confidence and briskness associated with highly organised and efficient people. She unabashedly admits she is both.
'I have to be very disciplined about partitioning my life into time schedules.'
She gives an example: 'For three years when I was doing Squawk Box, I had to excuse myself from dinners at 8pm so that I could get home to sleep and wake up at 4am.'
She loathes doing things at the last-minute and will work through weekends just so she can rest easy.
Good looks help?
FORMER TCS colleague and now good friend Nicolette Rappa-Tjoa says: 'Christine is one of the most principled people I know. Workwise, she is intense, focused and very conscientious.'
CNBC producer Dorin Lim, who has worked with Tan for about six years, agrees.
'She is the quintessential professional. Producing Managing Asia is quite an adventure. We have dealt with typhoons, zero temperatures, van breakdowns yet she has braved them all, doing stand-ups with a smile and no complaints.'
Indeed, Tan - who does her own make-up in 10 minutes flat - takes great pains to emphasise that she got to where she is through sheer professionalism and hard work.
Surely her good looks help?
'I do not think I got here because of looks. Good looks may make people notice you and may open doors but for the doors to be fully open, you really have to work hard.'
She is particularly proud of her work on 'her baby', Managing Asia, a programme she has managed for eight years.
'When you make a CEO sit in that chair, you had better know him and his organisation inside out. In fact, you should bring up things that he thinks you do not know. If you do not, you are wasting his time,' she says.
She has honed her skills over the years, preferring a soft but honest approach.
'I tell them what I hope to achieve instead of going straight for the jugular. You would be surprised at what they tell me,' she says.
'If you make them uncomfortable, they are not going to tell you the things you want to know.'
Not that she is a pushover. She has encountered business leaders who avoid talking about failures or sweep scandals under the carpets.
'People who are cagey are those heading multi- national corporations. They are coached so well by their public relations staff that everything they say sounds as though it is straight from a brochure.'
She has been known to stop interviews when she does not get the answers that she wants.
'I tell them respectfully that they are not answering my questions. I tell them if we do not talk about tough times honestly, both he and the show will lose credibility. After all, the show is for them to reflect upon what they have achieved and impart lessons that viewers, including other CEOs, can draw upon.'
The easiest to interview, she says, are the big-time billionaire business leaders such Las Vegas Sands Corp owner Sheldon Adelson, and Mr Gordon Wu, chairman of Hong Kong-listed Asian infrastructure firm Hopewell Holdings.
'I am just amazed at how humble they are. They have been through a lot while building their empires. They are the ones who will give you the little pieces of themselves that you would not normally get with other CEOs.'
She says she goes to work with a smile on her face every day and does not harbour dreams of running an empire herself.
'It is not a path everyone will or should take. I have thought about setting up a business, maybe something to do with pets,' says Tan who has a golden retriever called Ally.
Ms Tjoa-Rappa, who now works in the financial services industry, says: 'Work keeps her busy and it is not often that you find her relaxing. However, she makes time for the ones she loves, including her dog and mine. You could say she is almost militant in ensuring their happiness over her own.'
But when Tan does relax, it is always with her 'soul mate' of a husband, Mr Daniel Lee. He heads an Indonesian investment bank here.
'We love to take long walks around the neighbourhood. And we go on skiing holidays every year. We have skied almost everywhere - Japan, New Zealand and the Italian Alps.'
They are not closing the door on babies, she replies when asked if motherhood is part of her gameplan.
'That will be another journey when it happens. I will just go where life takes me.'
kimhoh@sph.com.sg
She's Hot! : Christine Tan of CNBC
Christine Tan is the Singapore-based anchor for CNBC's longest-running feature program "Managing Asia". She also anchors "Worldwide Exchange", CNBC's groundbreaking program coming live every weekday from Asia, Europe and the U.S. interviewing prominent CEOs and leaders of top companies doing business in Asia.
Tan has more than 16 years experience in journalism, more than half of which was with CNBC. During her career, she has covered the business and financial market impact from major news events like the Asian Economic Crisis, the Dot Com Bubble Crash, 9-11 attacks in the US and SARS Outbreak.
She received the Best News Program award at the 2004 Asian Television Awards on behalf of The Asian Wall Street Journal. The same program also won a finalist award at the 2004 New York Festivals for Coverage of a Breaking News Story.
Christine Tan also received Silver World Medal for Best Anchor at the 2009 New York Festivals Television Programming and Promotion Awards. She also won for Best Current Affairs Presenter award at the 2008 Asian Television Awards. She was a finalist for Best News Anchor in 2001 and 2002 at the New York Festivals Awards and also a Best Current Affairs Presenter finalist at the 1997 and 2006 Asian Television Awards.
She holds a Bachelor of Arts degree in Sociology and English and a Masters of Arts with Honors in Sociology from the University of Auckland, New Zealand.
Tan has more than 16 years experience in journalism, more than half of which was with CNBC. During her career, she has covered the business and financial market impact from major news events like the Asian Economic Crisis, the Dot Com Bubble Crash, 9-11 attacks in the US and SARS Outbreak.
She received the Best News Program award at the 2004 Asian Television Awards on behalf of The Asian Wall Street Journal. The same program also won a finalist award at the 2004 New York Festivals for Coverage of a Breaking News Story.
Christine Tan also received Silver World Medal for Best Anchor at the 2009 New York Festivals Television Programming and Promotion Awards. She also won for Best Current Affairs Presenter award at the 2008 Asian Television Awards. She was a finalist for Best News Anchor in 2001 and 2002 at the New York Festivals Awards and also a Best Current Affairs Presenter finalist at the 1997 and 2006 Asian Television Awards.
She holds a Bachelor of Arts degree in Sociology and English and a Masters of Arts with Honors in Sociology from the University of Auckland, New Zealand.
Does the Singaporean cougar exist?
Does the Singaporean cougar exist? A Singaporean woman hitting her 30's who clubs excessively and preys on younger Singaporean men? She may have reached a her mental and financial peak and therefore qualifies her to unleashed her sausage hunting expertise in order to satisfy her wanton hotdog buns.
The cougar scene in Singapore is dead as far as I know and besides there's way way way too much social stigma involving an older woman and a younger man. Especially an older asian women dating younger asian men. And I don't mean couple of years apart but like a whopping 10 years gap or more.
Would any Singaporean woman in her 30's selectively prey on SG men in their 20's? Given the social climate as it is in Singapore, I would say... maybe not. What do you think? Anyone been with an SG cougar?
You would if your cougar looks like Gongli... Oh yes, she's a Singaporean citizen btw.
from : http://erniesurn.xanga.com/712632665/singaporean-cougar/
The cougar scene in Singapore is dead as far as I know and besides there's way way way too much social stigma involving an older woman and a younger man. Especially an older asian women dating younger asian men. And I don't mean couple of years apart but like a whopping 10 years gap or more.
Would any Singaporean woman in her 30's selectively prey on SG men in their 20's? Given the social climate as it is in Singapore, I would say... maybe not. What do you think? Anyone been with an SG cougar?
You would if your cougar looks like Gongli... Oh yes, she's a Singaporean citizen btw.
from : http://erniesurn.xanga.com/712632665/singaporean-cougar/
Cougars go cruising for cubs
First published in The New Paper | Tue, Dec 15 2009
THREE days ago, the first cruise for cougars set sail.
But if you think we are referring to mountain lions, you are mistaken – these cougars are women.
Click here to find out more!
Last Friday, the cruise ship Elation made history by hosting the world’s first International Cougar Cruise, reported CNN.
Elation spokesman Rich Gosse, who came up with the concept, said: “A cougar is generally known as a woman over 40 who likes to date younger men, but theoretically any woman who dates younger men is a cougar.”
All 300 places on the ship, which sailed from San Diego, California, to Ensenada, Mexico, for a three-night cruise, were taken up and there was even a waiting list.
Ms Ann Thomas, owner of the Singles Travel Company who organised the cruise, told CNN: “I’ve never seen a response quite like this.”
She said she was hesitant to sign on to the idea at first but now is glad that she did.
“We have people flying in from Italy and Denmark. My associates have been booking from France, Canada. It’s fascinating.”
She added: “And starting at US$125 (S$174) per ticket, it’s a great price. I’ve had to hire two more people part-time just to pick up the phones.”
The ship has three swimming pools, a seven-deck-high atrium, bar and grill, a Moroccan-inspired Casablanca Casino and a lounge that features stage shows.
After making port in Ensenada, there are extracurricular activities like horse-riding, all-terrain vehicles rides and other outdoor activities.
Ms Thomas said: “There are at least four or five options a day for people to get together on the cruise. We’re doing lots of activities; dancing, dining, jacuzzi parties, two-hour karaoke sessions.”
Mr Gosse, who has been hosting singles events for more than 30 years, got the idea for the cougar cruise after hosting a cougar convention in Palo Alto, California.
He told USA Today: “We had to turn away hundreds of people. Then we did one (cougar convention) in Beverly Hills and had a massive crowd down there. So I thought, maybe we should do a cougar cruise.
“I didn’t think anyone would want to go. Needless to say, the phone is ringing off the hook.”
More cubs
But plans for future cruises have run into an iceberg of sorts – too many cubs and not enough cougars.
Mr Gosse defined a “cub” as someone in his 20s or early 30s who likes to date older women.
He said: “The basic problem is, we have too many cubs. We usually have too many women and not enough guys, but there’s been a paradigm shift in recent years.
“So now, the cubs are more excited about it than the cougars.”
He said that in the past, it was socially acceptable for older men to date younger women.
But, he said, celebrities like 31-year-old Ashton Kutcher (the husband of actress Demi Moore, 47) and 34-year-old baseball player Alex Rodriguez (who is rumoured to have dated pop star Madonna, 51) have led to a new generation of younger men on the prowl for more experienced partners.
There is now also a US sitcom called Cougar Town, which glamorises the sexual escapades of a divorcee in her 40s in search of self-discovery by dating younger men.
According to the US Census Bureau, there are 118 single men for every 100 single women in their 20s in the country.
Ms Thomas said this skewed profile was because young women were dating older guys. “If you look at the demographics, the only logical way for people to get their needs met is for younger men to date older women.”
This article was first published in The New Paper.
THREE days ago, the first cruise for cougars set sail.
But if you think we are referring to mountain lions, you are mistaken – these cougars are women.
Click here to find out more!
Last Friday, the cruise ship Elation made history by hosting the world’s first International Cougar Cruise, reported CNN.
Elation spokesman Rich Gosse, who came up with the concept, said: “A cougar is generally known as a woman over 40 who likes to date younger men, but theoretically any woman who dates younger men is a cougar.”
All 300 places on the ship, which sailed from San Diego, California, to Ensenada, Mexico, for a three-night cruise, were taken up and there was even a waiting list.
Ms Ann Thomas, owner of the Singles Travel Company who organised the cruise, told CNN: “I’ve never seen a response quite like this.”
She said she was hesitant to sign on to the idea at first but now is glad that she did.
“We have people flying in from Italy and Denmark. My associates have been booking from France, Canada. It’s fascinating.”
She added: “And starting at US$125 (S$174) per ticket, it’s a great price. I’ve had to hire two more people part-time just to pick up the phones.”
The ship has three swimming pools, a seven-deck-high atrium, bar and grill, a Moroccan-inspired Casablanca Casino and a lounge that features stage shows.
After making port in Ensenada, there are extracurricular activities like horse-riding, all-terrain vehicles rides and other outdoor activities.
Ms Thomas said: “There are at least four or five options a day for people to get together on the cruise. We’re doing lots of activities; dancing, dining, jacuzzi parties, two-hour karaoke sessions.”
Mr Gosse, who has been hosting singles events for more than 30 years, got the idea for the cougar cruise after hosting a cougar convention in Palo Alto, California.
He told USA Today: “We had to turn away hundreds of people. Then we did one (cougar convention) in Beverly Hills and had a massive crowd down there. So I thought, maybe we should do a cougar cruise.
“I didn’t think anyone would want to go. Needless to say, the phone is ringing off the hook.”
More cubs
But plans for future cruises have run into an iceberg of sorts – too many cubs and not enough cougars.
Mr Gosse defined a “cub” as someone in his 20s or early 30s who likes to date older women.
He said: “The basic problem is, we have too many cubs. We usually have too many women and not enough guys, but there’s been a paradigm shift in recent years.
“So now, the cubs are more excited about it than the cougars.”
He said that in the past, it was socially acceptable for older men to date younger women.
But, he said, celebrities like 31-year-old Ashton Kutcher (the husband of actress Demi Moore, 47) and 34-year-old baseball player Alex Rodriguez (who is rumoured to have dated pop star Madonna, 51) have led to a new generation of younger men on the prowl for more experienced partners.
There is now also a US sitcom called Cougar Town, which glamorises the sexual escapades of a divorcee in her 40s in search of self-discovery by dating younger men.
According to the US Census Bureau, there are 118 single men for every 100 single women in their 20s in the country.
Ms Thomas said this skewed profile was because young women were dating older guys. “If you look at the demographics, the only logical way for people to get their needs met is for younger men to date older women.”
This article was first published in The New Paper.
Are cougars on the hunt in Singapore?
A predatory woman on the prowl for fresh meat in the form of younger men - the cougar. It is a cliche about older women that has been given a new lease of life lately with television shows using it as a theme.
American TV reality dating show The Cougar aired on-demand on SingTel mio TV's Season Pass earlier this year, featuring 40-year-old blonde bombshell Stacey Anderson, a mother of four who has a group of 20-something men drooling over her.
And a sitcom called Cougar Town, starring Courtney Cox from Friends, hit screens in the United States recently. Cox plays a newly single middle-aged mum back on the dating scene.
So are there cougars on the hunt in Singapore? Couples here declare all that fuss and hype could not be further from the truth.
Experts tell LifeStyle that it is time to throw away these prejudices and stereotypes about older women and younger men.
Although a check with the Department of Statistics shows that the proportion of men marrying women six or more years older has held steady at an average of 2.1 per cent of total annual marriages over the last decade, experts say the trend is set to increase as society becomes more liberal.
And there is no 'predatory' issue involved at all, such couples say. What is more important are the relationship dynamics caused by the age gap.
Civil servant and mother-of-two Margaret Chee, 39 recalls having insecurity issues with her now husband, Anthony Lee, 33, a lawyer. The couple met 13 years ago when they were colleagues at the Ministry of Defence (Mindef). She was a staff member, while he was doing national service.
They hit it off and he gave her moral and emotional support when she had to undergo surgery to remove an ovary because of a cyst.
When he went to law school, they felt insecure about the relationship. She says: 'He was six years younger than me. With so many young girls in school, there were always temptations.
'But I was at Mindef with mostly male colleagues, so he, too, had insecurities to the point of being possessive, asking me who I was out with. Sometimes I would cry over such arguments.'
The couple worked out their issues, recognising they were serious about each other and got to know each other's families. Ms Chee admits that their families were concerned about whether their relationship would work out, but ultimately all were supportive.
Despite cases like Ms Chee's, the older-woman-younger-man relationship is still seen as taboo by most people. Some couples LifeStyle contacted declined to be featured because of sensitivities.
Marketing executive Lara Tan, 24, says: 'I would not date younger guys because I find older men much more mature and attractive.'
A 20-something sales manager who wants to be known only as Dominic, says: 'I've dated women much older than me but I doubt it would work out in marriage where I'll have to answer to my family.'
So what is the fuss about?
Associate professor Tan Ern Ser, a sociologist from the National University of Singapore (NUS), says: 'We are still a patriarchal society, though less so than before.
'Men are expected to be the breadwinner, head of the household and authority figure in the family. Since these roles come with age, it seems logical for women to marry older men. Those who do otherwise are seen as deviating from the norm.'
Psychologist Daniel Koh says young children are taught to respect older women as mother figures. This affects how they base their values as adults, and to some, older women cannot be seen in a sexual light.
But experts point out that society here is expected to open up more to such marriages as people become more educated and liberal-minded.
Another NUS sociologist, Professor Jean Yeung, says that because of such changes, 'marriages become more individualistic. People are seeking gratifying relationships in a marriage'.
She adds: 'The increasing number of celebrities in popular culture who are in such relationships has likely reduced the stigma.'
At the end of the day, such couples may have a trump card over others.
Mr Ang Thiam Hong, psychotherapist and relationship coach at Edora Counselling Services, explains: 'The age gap may be positive as it serves as a natural motivation for the couple to tend more to their marriage, instead of neglecting it as many couples do over time.'
tanyihui@sph.com.sg
This article was first published in The Sunday Times.
American TV reality dating show The Cougar aired on-demand on SingTel mio TV's Season Pass earlier this year, featuring 40-year-old blonde bombshell Stacey Anderson, a mother of four who has a group of 20-something men drooling over her.
And a sitcom called Cougar Town, starring Courtney Cox from Friends, hit screens in the United States recently. Cox plays a newly single middle-aged mum back on the dating scene.
So are there cougars on the hunt in Singapore? Couples here declare all that fuss and hype could not be further from the truth.
Experts tell LifeStyle that it is time to throw away these prejudices and stereotypes about older women and younger men.
Although a check with the Department of Statistics shows that the proportion of men marrying women six or more years older has held steady at an average of 2.1 per cent of total annual marriages over the last decade, experts say the trend is set to increase as society becomes more liberal.
And there is no 'predatory' issue involved at all, such couples say. What is more important are the relationship dynamics caused by the age gap.
Civil servant and mother-of-two Margaret Chee, 39 recalls having insecurity issues with her now husband, Anthony Lee, 33, a lawyer. The couple met 13 years ago when they were colleagues at the Ministry of Defence (Mindef). She was a staff member, while he was doing national service.
They hit it off and he gave her moral and emotional support when she had to undergo surgery to remove an ovary because of a cyst.
When he went to law school, they felt insecure about the relationship. She says: 'He was six years younger than me. With so many young girls in school, there were always temptations.
'But I was at Mindef with mostly male colleagues, so he, too, had insecurities to the point of being possessive, asking me who I was out with. Sometimes I would cry over such arguments.'
The couple worked out their issues, recognising they were serious about each other and got to know each other's families. Ms Chee admits that their families were concerned about whether their relationship would work out, but ultimately all were supportive.
Despite cases like Ms Chee's, the older-woman-younger-man relationship is still seen as taboo by most people. Some couples LifeStyle contacted declined to be featured because of sensitivities.
Marketing executive Lara Tan, 24, says: 'I would not date younger guys because I find older men much more mature and attractive.'
A 20-something sales manager who wants to be known only as Dominic, says: 'I've dated women much older than me but I doubt it would work out in marriage where I'll have to answer to my family.'
So what is the fuss about?
Associate professor Tan Ern Ser, a sociologist from the National University of Singapore (NUS), says: 'We are still a patriarchal society, though less so than before.
'Men are expected to be the breadwinner, head of the household and authority figure in the family. Since these roles come with age, it seems logical for women to marry older men. Those who do otherwise are seen as deviating from the norm.'
Psychologist Daniel Koh says young children are taught to respect older women as mother figures. This affects how they base their values as adults, and to some, older women cannot be seen in a sexual light.
But experts point out that society here is expected to open up more to such marriages as people become more educated and liberal-minded.
Another NUS sociologist, Professor Jean Yeung, says that because of such changes, 'marriages become more individualistic. People are seeking gratifying relationships in a marriage'.
She adds: 'The increasing number of celebrities in popular culture who are in such relationships has likely reduced the stigma.'
At the end of the day, such couples may have a trump card over others.
Mr Ang Thiam Hong, psychotherapist and relationship coach at Edora Counselling Services, explains: 'The age gap may be positive as it serves as a natural motivation for the couple to tend more to their marriage, instead of neglecting it as many couples do over time.'
tanyihui@sph.com.sg
This article was first published in The Sunday Times.
Thursday, August 19, 2010
Cougars of the world: Do ‘you go, girl?’
When Demi Moore turns 60, Ashton Kutcher will be only 44... Oh, but yummy mommy/merry widow-young guy affair has never had this good a buzz...
Read full article at: http://lifestyle.inquirer.net/sundaylifestyle/sundaylifestyle/view/20100808-285497/Cougars-of-the-world-Do-you-go-girl
Read full article at: http://lifestyle.inquirer.net/sundaylifestyle/sundaylifestyle/view/20100808-285497/Cougars-of-the-world-Do-you-go-girl
By Margie David Collins
Philippine Daily Inquirer
Philippine Daily Inquirer
DateFirst Posted 22:05:00 08/08/2010
Wednesday, August 18, 2010
What Joey de Leon has to say about Cougars
From his article in the Philippines Star
'Cougar - A Cat and a Woman'
ME, STARZAN By Joey de Leon
(The Philippine Star) Updated August 15, 2010 12:00
There’s no question that women will always be a very interesting subject. But for those who openly and passionately claim that they truly adore women, and to those who are addicted talking and writing about them, did you ever care and think of finding out why these beautiful creatures are called such — women?
O ano, aber? What’s their “WO” doing before us men? Do these letters really stand for Wife Of? Hence, Wife Of Man. Pwede?
It’s possible too that “WO” is short for womb — man with womb? Pwede rin?
But we are all called men in general. The “WO” was clearly placed there to recognize the difference between the male from the female. But why WO? Could they be symbolizing something?
Pero ‘wag nang mag-alala’t nalaman ko na
Kung ano at para saan ang “wo” sa una,
Nang papasok sa Bulaga isang umaga,
Biglaang sa isip ko ay pumasok siya.
Kulang na lang ay mapasigaw ng, “Eureka!”
Sa nadiskubrehan kong sana’y ikasiya,
Kaya eto na po kayo ay maghanda na,
Kung ano ang “wo” sa woman
sasabihin na.
Siguro naman tayo ay nagkakaisa
Na mga drawing ang nauna kaysa letra,
At ang “wo” sa tingin ko ay mga pigura
Ng dalawang maseselang parte ni Eba.
Tingnan ang “W” at dibdib ang kapara —
S’yay may dalawang lundo o ano, hindi ba?
At bilog na “O” ito ba’y sasabihin pa?
Butas na lagusan ng sangkatauhan s’ya.
Kung paniniwalaan nasa sa inyo na,
At inaako ko kung ano ang nabasa,
Nung Miercoles lang nang pumasok ang ideya,
Tanggap kong regalo at ‘di nagpapatawa.
Siguro ang iba d’yan ay sasabihin pa
Na itong si Joey tarantado talaga,
Kung kayo’y tagahanga inyo bang napuna
Wala akong “ngek!” sa dulo na binalandra?
Cougar ka d’yan! You just changed it from SUGAR! Ngek! At inalis n’yo pa ‘yung “mommy” ha — at ayaw pa n’yo ng Cougar Mommy ha.
Well, kung ayaw n’yo ng “sugar,” eh at least, let’s be equal.
Gets n’yo? Sugar and Equal?
Why don’t you just call older men who still go for younger girls “Flirty Gold Men?” ‘Wag nang dirty! Para namang salaula at balahura ang dating ng mga lalaki eh. Imagine, kayo cougar — parang regal at kagalang-galang ang arrive. Tapos ang lalaki D.O.M.? Manyakis na manyakis ‘di ba?
O ganito na lang — anyway, you picked an animal name from the cat family , cougar — let men pick their own. Say, PUMA. O, ‘di ba ang ganda? Tabla-tabla na. We are family pa. You are cougar. And we are puma. Hindi pa halatang “puma” is short for puma-patol sa bata. Ngek!
Last July 30, a Friday, I watched Cats with my pride (de Leon yata ito) at the CCP. When the show continued after the intermission, I was surprised to hear a reprise of the song Memory performed in Tagalog! As a matter of fact, although it was not common for musical play goers to clap at the beginning of a number, the Filipino audience could not control giving it a warm applause. Hindi nakapagpigil baga dala ng Pinoy pride.
I learned the next day that the Tagalog translation was written by Pete Lacaba. Galing. It was poetically translated from the sentiments of Lea Salonga’s character Grizabella.
But again, in the spirit of fairness, here’s my own set of lyrics to the tune of Memory but this time from a real cat’s point of view —
Pusa
Laging api na lamang
Madalas pang maturong
Nagnakaw ng ulam
Malimit pa
Pag kami ay nasagasaan
Flat na flat ang katawan...
'Cougar - A Cat and a Woman'
ME, STARZAN By Joey de Leon
(The Philippine Star) Updated August 15, 2010 12:00
There’s no question that women will always be a very interesting subject. But for those who openly and passionately claim that they truly adore women, and to those who are addicted talking and writing about them, did you ever care and think of finding out why these beautiful creatures are called such — women?
O ano, aber? What’s their “WO” doing before us men? Do these letters really stand for Wife Of? Hence, Wife Of Man. Pwede?
It’s possible too that “WO” is short for womb — man with womb? Pwede rin?
But we are all called men in general. The “WO” was clearly placed there to recognize the difference between the male from the female. But why WO? Could they be symbolizing something?
Pero ‘wag nang mag-alala’t nalaman ko na
Kung ano at para saan ang “wo” sa una,
Nang papasok sa Bulaga isang umaga,
Biglaang sa isip ko ay pumasok siya.
Kulang na lang ay mapasigaw ng, “Eureka!”
Sa nadiskubrehan kong sana’y ikasiya,
Kaya eto na po kayo ay maghanda na,
Kung ano ang “wo” sa woman
sasabihin na.
Siguro naman tayo ay nagkakaisa
Na mga drawing ang nauna kaysa letra,
At ang “wo” sa tingin ko ay mga pigura
Ng dalawang maseselang parte ni Eba.
Tingnan ang “W” at dibdib ang kapara —
S’yay may dalawang lundo o ano, hindi ba?
At bilog na “O” ito ba’y sasabihin pa?
Butas na lagusan ng sangkatauhan s’ya.
Kung paniniwalaan nasa sa inyo na,
At inaako ko kung ano ang nabasa,
Nung Miercoles lang nang pumasok ang ideya,
Tanggap kong regalo at ‘di nagpapatawa.
Siguro ang iba d’yan ay sasabihin pa
Na itong si Joey tarantado talaga,
Kung kayo’y tagahanga inyo bang napuna
Wala akong “ngek!” sa dulo na binalandra?
* * *
But wait, there’s more... teka nga at teka lang, why do women today have a nicer and cuter name for themselves if they date or get involved romantically with younger men? Cougar. Wow, bakit ganon? Pag lalaki, dirty old men! Anak ng put your head on my shoulder! Where is your sense of fairness?Cougar ka d’yan! You just changed it from SUGAR! Ngek! At inalis n’yo pa ‘yung “mommy” ha — at ayaw pa n’yo ng Cougar Mommy ha.
Well, kung ayaw n’yo ng “sugar,” eh at least, let’s be equal.
Gets n’yo? Sugar and Equal?
Why don’t you just call older men who still go for younger girls “Flirty Gold Men?” ‘Wag nang dirty! Para namang salaula at balahura ang dating ng mga lalaki eh. Imagine, kayo cougar — parang regal at kagalang-galang ang arrive. Tapos ang lalaki D.O.M.? Manyakis na manyakis ‘di ba?
O ganito na lang — anyway, you picked an animal name from the cat family , cougar — let men pick their own. Say, PUMA. O, ‘di ba ang ganda? Tabla-tabla na. We are family pa. You are cougar. And we are puma. Hindi pa halatang “puma” is short for puma-patol sa bata. Ngek!
* * *
I learned the next day that the Tagalog translation was written by Pete Lacaba. Galing. It was poetically translated from the sentiments of Lea Salonga’s character Grizabella.
But again, in the spirit of fairness, here’s my own set of lyrics to the tune of Memory but this time from a real cat’s point of view —
Pusa
Laging api na lamang
Madalas pang maturong
Nagnakaw ng ulam
Malimit pa
Pag kami ay nasagasaan
Flat na flat ang katawan...
The Age of Cougars
Wednesday, 11 February 2009 06:20 Monet Lu and Marian A. Maraya
from the AsianJournal - http://www.asianjournal.com/aj-magazine/midweek-mgzn/1224-the-age-of-cougars.html?start=1
Older women, younger men: Is it the new trend?
Openly revealed or poorly concealed, May-December romances have emerged as phenomenal fodder for conversations, both for those who fawn over or frown on this type of convention-breaking (or some say, liberating) relationship.
Thanks to superstars Demi Moore and Ashton Kutcher or their lesser known Hollywood counterparts, what has once been dismissed as taboo has been given quite the rehabilitated image: That older women dating younger men is not only gaining society’s approval but that it is now an attractive alternative. Before Demi and Ashton, there’s always been the May-December partnership between actress Susan Sarandon and her much younger boyfriend actor Tim Robbins.
The Nanny actress Fran Drescher once dated a gentleman 16 years younger than herself. Actress Kim Catrall, whose sexually-adventurous character Samantha in Sex and the City favored young men, is seeing someone many years her junior in real life.
In Philippine showbiz, the May-December trend is alive and well. Famous examples: TV host Kris Aquino and basketballer husband James Yap have an 11-year age gap; star for all seasons Vilma Santos is married to politician Ralph Recto who is ten years younger than the Batangas governor; concert queen Pops Fernandez is dating younger actor Jomari Yllana and the list goes on.
Within the Socal vicinity, there’s been the much publicized new marriage of Fil-Am newspaper columnist Cora Pastrana and the much younger Raymond Bagatsing.
There’s also the fascinating dating life of LA-based singer and actress Lou Sabas who has no qualms admitting she enjoys the company of younger gentlemen.
Sabas believes her fascination with younger men was borne out of an interrupted young adulthood. She married very young (at age 21) and gave birth to a baby girl the following year.
Sabas says she missed the opportunity to date guys her own age when she was in her 20s.
"My first husband was the only older guy in my life, seven years older than me. I got married the second time, he was two years younger. That marriage which lasted ten years didn’t work out in the end. Now I’ve been divorced for 16 years. Most of my friends are in their 20s and 30s and I get along real well with them. So most of the time, I’m around younger guys and they never treat me like an older woman. I like their sense of humor and they are more fun to be with. They uplift my spirit and it helps me feel young all the time. And I believe that how you feel about yourself is the aura that other people can see when they look at you," says Sabas.
Currently, she is openly dating 28-year-old Philipp Harth.
So what’s age really got to do with it? If you ask actor Tim Robbins, age isn’t even a factor in his relationship with the older Susan Sarandon. The actor told a 1995 Playboy magazine interview that "Each person is who they are. I’ve met young women who are old, I’ve met older women who are young."
But really, if age weren’t a factor, why does it even come up in the case of older women dating younger men?
Many believe it’s partly because of the double standard. After all, older men have been engaging in May-December affairs with much younger women for ages.
Author Valerie Gibson who penned the book Cougar: A Guide for Older Women Dating Younger Men is aware of the double standard.
In the end, the ultimate reason why older people decide to date younger is more or less the same across the board— whether you’re a woman, man, gay or straight.
The main lure, according to Gibson is "the mentality of having a youthful person on your arm who makes you feel good, who makes you feel ageless, makes you feel desired and desirable."
Do you hear the resounding "Amen!"?
from the AsianJournal - http://www.asianjournal.com/aj-magazine/midweek-mgzn/1224-the-age-of-cougars.html?start=1
Lou Sabas and Philipp Harth |
Older women, younger men: Is it the new trend?
Openly revealed or poorly concealed, May-December romances have emerged as phenomenal fodder for conversations, both for those who fawn over or frown on this type of convention-breaking (or some say, liberating) relationship.
Thanks to superstars Demi Moore and Ashton Kutcher or their lesser known Hollywood counterparts, what has once been dismissed as taboo has been given quite the rehabilitated image: That older women dating younger men is not only gaining society’s approval but that it is now an attractive alternative. Before Demi and Ashton, there’s always been the May-December partnership between actress Susan Sarandon and her much younger boyfriend actor Tim Robbins.
The Nanny actress Fran Drescher once dated a gentleman 16 years younger than herself. Actress Kim Catrall, whose sexually-adventurous character Samantha in Sex and the City favored young men, is seeing someone many years her junior in real life.
In Philippine showbiz, the May-December trend is alive and well. Famous examples: TV host Kris Aquino and basketballer husband James Yap have an 11-year age gap; star for all seasons Vilma Santos is married to politician Ralph Recto who is ten years younger than the Batangas governor; concert queen Pops Fernandez is dating younger actor Jomari Yllana and the list goes on.
Within the Socal vicinity, there’s been the much publicized new marriage of Fil-Am newspaper columnist Cora Pastrana and the much younger Raymond Bagatsing.
There’s also the fascinating dating life of LA-based singer and actress Lou Sabas who has no qualms admitting she enjoys the company of younger gentlemen.
Sabas believes her fascination with younger men was borne out of an interrupted young adulthood. She married very young (at age 21) and gave birth to a baby girl the following year.
Sabas says she missed the opportunity to date guys her own age when she was in her 20s.
"My first husband was the only older guy in my life, seven years older than me. I got married the second time, he was two years younger. That marriage which lasted ten years didn’t work out in the end. Now I’ve been divorced for 16 years. Most of my friends are in their 20s and 30s and I get along real well with them. So most of the time, I’m around younger guys and they never treat me like an older woman. I like their sense of humor and they are more fun to be with. They uplift my spirit and it helps me feel young all the time. And I believe that how you feel about yourself is the aura that other people can see when they look at you," says Sabas.
Currently, she is openly dating 28-year-old Philipp Harth.
So what’s age really got to do with it? If you ask actor Tim Robbins, age isn’t even a factor in his relationship with the older Susan Sarandon. The actor told a 1995 Playboy magazine interview that "Each person is who they are. I’ve met young women who are old, I’ve met older women who are young."
But really, if age weren’t a factor, why does it even come up in the case of older women dating younger men?
Many believe it’s partly because of the double standard. After all, older men have been engaging in May-December affairs with much younger women for ages.
Author Valerie Gibson who penned the book Cougar: A Guide for Older Women Dating Younger Men is aware of the double standard.
In the end, the ultimate reason why older people decide to date younger is more or less the same across the board— whether you’re a woman, man, gay or straight.
The main lure, according to Gibson is "the mentality of having a youthful person on your arm who makes you feel good, who makes you feel ageless, makes you feel desired and desirable."
Do you hear the resounding "Amen!"?
Tuesday, August 17, 2010
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Eula Valdez : FHM Interview
FHM Interview May 2006
Click here for direct link: http://www.fhm.com.ph/fhm-babes/cover-babe/284/eula-valdez/p/1
INTERVIEW: ALEX PAITA
PHOTOGRAPHY: XANDER ANGELES OF EDGE OF LIGHT
After wooing you for what seemed like forever, you finally gave in! Please tell us this is really happening.
Yes, two years ago I was really hesitant kasi masyadong daring yung mga pinagagawa ninyo. Hindi ko kaya. Right now, wala naman akong image na pino-project. I don’t want to be trapped in one image. I already posed for a body calendar two years ago. I didn’t get any violent reactions. Ngayon, I’m really flattered kasi nag-offer uli ang FHM na mag-pose ako.
Were you even aware of the large chunk of letters we get from readers requesting for you?
Really? I’m not aware! I’d be really flattered if I’d known then. It boosts my confidence kasi at my age di ba, may nagre-request. Thirty-eight is not too old after all. But compared to your recent cover girls, that is too old. Ha ha!
That’s precisely the point. You’re 38 and still as hot as those teens! Do you mind being called a MILF?
Ha ha ha! Bahala sila. Para sa akin this is another role. I can do this, and I can do a lot more things. I’m an empowered woman no matter what I do.
But really, you don’t look like a mom. We mean, with that face and that body…
Thank you. Yun din nga ang sabi ng husband ko. So when he saw Xander’s works pumayag na agad siya. He’s proud that I’m posing for FHM.
Of course, being Amor Powers adds up something to your sex appeal.
Yes, that was five years ago. But as I’ve said I don’t want to maintain one image. Gusto ko puwede akong maging mother, other woman, girlfriend ng bata. At para pagtanda ko, I have something to keep and say, “Wow, I posed for FHM!”
Click here for direct link: http://www.fhm.com.ph/fhm-babes/cover-babe/284/eula-valdez/p/1
INTERVIEW: ALEX PAITA
PHOTOGRAPHY: XANDER ANGELES OF EDGE OF LIGHT
After wooing you for what seemed like forever, you finally gave in! Please tell us this is really happening.
Yes, two years ago I was really hesitant kasi masyadong daring yung mga pinagagawa ninyo. Hindi ko kaya. Right now, wala naman akong image na pino-project. I don’t want to be trapped in one image. I already posed for a body calendar two years ago. I didn’t get any violent reactions. Ngayon, I’m really flattered kasi nag-offer uli ang FHM na mag-pose ako.
Were you even aware of the large chunk of letters we get from readers requesting for you?
Really? I’m not aware! I’d be really flattered if I’d known then. It boosts my confidence kasi at my age di ba, may nagre-request. Thirty-eight is not too old after all. But compared to your recent cover girls, that is too old. Ha ha!
That’s precisely the point. You’re 38 and still as hot as those teens! Do you mind being called a MILF?
Ha ha ha! Bahala sila. Para sa akin this is another role. I can do this, and I can do a lot more things. I’m an empowered woman no matter what I do.
But really, you don’t look like a mom. We mean, with that face and that body…
Thank you. Yun din nga ang sabi ng husband ko. So when he saw Xander’s works pumayag na agad siya. He’s proud that I’m posing for FHM.
Of course, being Amor Powers adds up something to your sex appeal.
Yes, that was five years ago. But as I’ve said I don’t want to maintain one image. Gusto ko puwede akong maging mother, other woman, girlfriend ng bata. At para pagtanda ko, I have something to keep and say, “Wow, I posed for FHM!”
Monday, August 16, 2010
Is a Budoir Photo Session For You?
One of the things which a Cougar must come to grips with is the fact that her body may not be in the best of shape forever. Try as she might, the cougar is battling against age and gravity. So with this, it comes as no surprise that more cougars are trying what may be their stab at being the model they've always wanted to be.
Enter the world of Budoir Portraiture.
Jean Garcia did it for FHM, and so did Dina Bonnevie. While you may not really land the pages of FHM, Maxim, Uno, or Rogue, bear in mind that a budoir portrait session will be the closest to that same experience.
And why should a cougar have a budoir photo session?
Well, besides giving you an opportunity to be naked in a situation where you would normally be clothed, being photographed naked will yield a souvenir that you can use as inspiration. Even so, it should be as flattering as possible: The idea is to provide a sense of pride and possibility. As a tip, stick to black and white--it’s less distracting than color, and you’ll see fewer irregularities in skin tone--and use soft, diffused light to soften any lumps, bumps, or other imperfections on your skin.
So now that I've mentioned black and white, I am now reminded of what it was like in high school to pose before Toch Arellano. Girl, Toch was the best!
If Toch were still alive today, I'd be sure he'd raise his eyebrows in thinking that the high school seniors of the Bagets era would make a beeline to his studio in Eisenhower St. to have budoir sessions.
In the next post, we'll tell you how to handle yourself in a budoir session.
Are you ready to pose for a sexy photo session? Join us in our Facebook Discussion
Sunday, August 15, 2010
Pounds Away! with the Sexy Chef
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When your profile is set up and you are ready to start your program, you will receive a daily delivery of fresh food consisting of breakfast, lunch, snacks and dinner. On some days, the delivery will include dessert. These gourmet meals and healthy snacks are prepared according to the Pounds Away™ program.
What is the delivery schedule?
The food will be delivered the day before consumption. Delivery times range from early morning to late afternoon. If you are not available to receive the package, please arrange for someone to be at the drop-off point to accept it on your behalf. To keep the food fresh we strictly urge you to refrigerate upon delivery.
How is the food received?
Our delivery rider will give you or your representative a checklist to guarantee that all the food items are complete. Once this is verified, the form must be signed by you or your representative.
How does your food come?
The Sexy Chef’s meals are delivered fresh to your door in an ice-packed, insulated, cooler bag. 3 delicious meals and 2 hearty snacks are placed in microwavable and disposable containers.
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Every meal is conveniently packaged in a labeled, microwave oven-safe container. Though oven times vary, meals should be heated for 1-3 minutes without the cover.
Breakfast items such as omelets should be heated for less than a minute to keep from hardening or drying out.
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From the Inquirer : Will You Be A Cougar?
By Cheche V. Moral, Vangie Baga-Reyes, Pam Pastor
Philippine Daily Inquirer
Direct link to Inquirer.net article: http://lifestyle.inquirer.net/sundaylifestyle/sundaylifestyle/view/20100808-285503/Will-you-be-a-cougar
Yes, sounds like fun, and if he is charming, intellectually curious, kind to others, has a good sense of humor it just might lead to “gonna make it after all.” Women can date whom they want, when they want and get called just “women.” Though I will not date any man 10 years younger and any boy as young as my 18-year-old son.—Michele Sison, designer, Michele Sison et Kleid; widow with a teenage son
Cougar! What a provocative name for an older woman with a much younger man as prey. I’ve been free to date for the last 10 years, but no, I wouldn’t care to date a much younger man. I do not enjoy the prospect of becoming a sugar mommy, for what else would a much younger man want with an old cow like me? I know it’s just a date, but I’m sensitive to what people might say and will never be able to explain to my conservative children. A woman should always behave her age, especially if she has children who look up to her as a model.—Erlinda Enriquez Panlilio, writer; widow
No, I will not go out with anyone younger by more than five years. I’ve always liked the wisdom, wordliness and finesse of older men.—Leah Caringal, managing director, Green Bulb PR; happily single open to fun and action
While I’d much rather date an older man or someone my age, I wouldn’t discount dating someone younger. If a young, confident stud could transform playful banter into intellectually engaging conversation, why not? Plus, he’d most likely be already impressed with who you are and what you’ve accomplished without having you try so hard.—Zo Aguila, editor in chief, Cosmopolitan magazine; single and loving it
Even if I were free to date now, I wouldn’t go out with a much younger man. I have four children, I don’t think I can handle a fifth.—Kaye Tinga, philanthropist- socialite; married
Yes, more out of curiosity than anything else. I’ve been associated with older men ever since I can remember so it might be exciting to break out of the mold once in a while. Although the maximum [age] I would probably go is 10 years my junior. [Any younger] than that would be way too much work and for the more adventurous woman I guess—I can’t imagine what our conversations would be like! Or maybe I shouldn’t judge too hastily and just need to get my feet wet first. Ask me again in a few years.—Malu Francisco, retail executive; single with two adult kids
Why not? As long as the guy knows how to differentiate the mother from her daughters. And the affair should not cost me anything. —Annie Ringor, managing director, Bridges@Com; widow with two daughters
I would date a younger man but it depends how much younger. Young people can be fun and interesting and give off a nice vibe and energy. That can’t be a bad thing. Actually age isn’t a big deal because there are also immature older men. The age difference just shouldn’t look too obvious or awkward.—Chiqui Mabanta, restaurateur, Corner Tree Café and Mexicali; single
Assuming I were free, yes I would go out with a younger man, but no more than 10 years younger. First, they’ve got more energy. Second, I noticed that men mature a lot faster than they used to, so you get a fresh new perspective on life, politics, religion... And the fact that they show interest in an older woman shows that they are open to intellectual stimulation. And hey, a little spice never hurt! Ahh... I have the makings of a cougar!—Marla Moran Tañada, restaurateur, Café Mediterranean; married with two kids
Now at 33, no. I’m a different person now. But if I recall, when I was 27 I “dated” a 19-year-old, and his cousin who was also 19 right after. Haha! I have dated much older men, too. About 10 years my senior. Now the perfect fit, the man I’m dating is 35. We are at the same stage in our life, enjoying our youth and will be literally growing old together.—Tina Pamintuan, model, chef, restaurateur, L’incontro Ristorante Italiano; single
Assuming that I am in a position to still go dating, I don’t find anything wrong in going out with someone younger than me. If the chemistry’s there, why not? What’s important is that we get along well and we have the same appreciation of things. The relationship should be inspiring and fun and as long as there’s mutual love, trust and respect, age shouldn’t be a problem.—Antonette Villanueva Rodriguez, badminton enthusiast; married with two children
I’m two years older than my husband so yes, I would. Age is just a number. It doesn’t dictate maturity or love.—Sunshine Puey Pengson, chef, The Goose Station; married
Nope. Depends on my age. [When I’m] 50 [or older] definitely. [Now that I am still under] 40, I would rather go out with an older man since I want a man to take care of me instead of [me] taking care of a [him].—Pixie Sevilla Santos, chef-instructor, Magsaysay Institute of Hospitality and Culinary Arts; married with one daughter
Depends.—Millie Dizon, VP for marketing communications, SM; single
I’m fine as long as he’s a man who is striving for perfection in every aspect of his life. Basta not more than five years younger.—Ruby Gan, entrepreneur/power lifter; single with two adult sons
No, I want a mature man who can fascinate me with his brain. And I already have three kids, I don’t need another son to baby. Gusto ko ako naman ang alagaan.—Madge Lejano, makeup artist, single
No, because men are immature by nature. I’d rather go out with a guy my age or older.—Agoo Bengzon, beauty editor; married
Definitely yes... It will be wonderful to get fresh energy into the system. —Tessa Prieto-Valdes, columnist/host/interior designer; married
Age is nothing but a number, it’s the maturity that matters. I once dated someone who was much older than me but he turned out to be infantile.—Divine Lee, entrepreneur/ model; in a relationship
Yes, why not? As long as he can carry an intellectual conversation with me, age will never be a barrier.—Leah Salterio, publicist; regularly dating
Personally, I’d rather date a king than a prince charming.—Joyce Ramirez, publicist; single
No, they don’t know what they want in life. Older men are sexier—I married one.—Juana Manahan-Yupangco, writer; wife of sexy older man
Depends on his maturity level. I was asked out on a date by a younger guy and he took me bowling—with his family. Fail!—Maui Reyes-Drilon, advertising copywriter; married
Yes! The younger guys now have less hang-ups than those of my generation. They are all about having fun. Older, pretty women fascinate them as well. Would I marry one, though? Probably not.—Kinny Salas-Amparo, beauty columnist; married
Yes, I would consider it! Usually guys my age (29-30) are either taken or gay. It’s a little frustrating!—Kara Alberto, PR executive; single
Ten years younger? Why not? Malay mo mag-click. Pero kailangan maginoo siya pero medyo bastos, hindi KJ, hindi pa-impress at dapat may ipambabayad siya ng bill ng kinain namin otherwise magwo-walkout ako... Next, 10 years older please!”— Merci de Leon, physician; married
If I were single, why not? It’s just a date. Although I’ll do a little investigating first if it‘s really worth giving a try or not.—Hazel Vera de la Cruz, housewife
Yes, absolutely. Why not? I think I’m still too young to be called a cougar or MILF and I’m totally not an ageist! Though I’ve only dated a younger man once, I have always been friends with younger people in general so I can’t imagine holding a man’s age against him. Nowadays, age is just a number. Whatever their age, I’ll make sure to select men who are honest and genuine and who are who they claim to be. Age is no indicator of how decent a man is. —NJ Torres, publicist; single
Philippine Daily Inquirer
Direct link to Inquirer.net article: http://lifestyle.inquirer.net/sundaylifestyle/sundaylifestyle/view/20100808-285503/Will-you-be-a-cougar
Yes, sounds like fun, and if he is charming, intellectually curious, kind to others, has a good sense of humor it just might lead to “gonna make it after all.” Women can date whom they want, when they want and get called just “women.” Though I will not date any man 10 years younger and any boy as young as my 18-year-old son.—Michele Sison, designer, Michele Sison et Kleid; widow with a teenage son
Cougar! What a provocative name for an older woman with a much younger man as prey. I’ve been free to date for the last 10 years, but no, I wouldn’t care to date a much younger man. I do not enjoy the prospect of becoming a sugar mommy, for what else would a much younger man want with an old cow like me? I know it’s just a date, but I’m sensitive to what people might say and will never be able to explain to my conservative children. A woman should always behave her age, especially if she has children who look up to her as a model.—Erlinda Enriquez Panlilio, writer; widow
No, I will not go out with anyone younger by more than five years. I’ve always liked the wisdom, wordliness and finesse of older men.—Leah Caringal, managing director, Green Bulb PR; happily single open to fun and action
While I’d much rather date an older man or someone my age, I wouldn’t discount dating someone younger. If a young, confident stud could transform playful banter into intellectually engaging conversation, why not? Plus, he’d most likely be already impressed with who you are and what you’ve accomplished without having you try so hard.—Zo Aguila, editor in chief, Cosmopolitan magazine; single and loving it
Even if I were free to date now, I wouldn’t go out with a much younger man. I have four children, I don’t think I can handle a fifth.—Kaye Tinga, philanthropist- socialite; married
Yes, more out of curiosity than anything else. I’ve been associated with older men ever since I can remember so it might be exciting to break out of the mold once in a while. Although the maximum [age] I would probably go is 10 years my junior. [Any younger] than that would be way too much work and for the more adventurous woman I guess—I can’t imagine what our conversations would be like! Or maybe I shouldn’t judge too hastily and just need to get my feet wet first. Ask me again in a few years.—Malu Francisco, retail executive; single with two adult kids
Why not? As long as the guy knows how to differentiate the mother from her daughters. And the affair should not cost me anything. —Annie Ringor, managing director, Bridges@Com; widow with two daughters
I would date a younger man but it depends how much younger. Young people can be fun and interesting and give off a nice vibe and energy. That can’t be a bad thing. Actually age isn’t a big deal because there are also immature older men. The age difference just shouldn’t look too obvious or awkward.—Chiqui Mabanta, restaurateur, Corner Tree Café and Mexicali; single
Assuming I were free, yes I would go out with a younger man, but no more than 10 years younger. First, they’ve got more energy. Second, I noticed that men mature a lot faster than they used to, so you get a fresh new perspective on life, politics, religion... And the fact that they show interest in an older woman shows that they are open to intellectual stimulation. And hey, a little spice never hurt! Ahh... I have the makings of a cougar!—Marla Moran Tañada, restaurateur, Café Mediterranean; married with two kids
Now at 33, no. I’m a different person now. But if I recall, when I was 27 I “dated” a 19-year-old, and his cousin who was also 19 right after. Haha! I have dated much older men, too. About 10 years my senior. Now the perfect fit, the man I’m dating is 35. We are at the same stage in our life, enjoying our youth and will be literally growing old together.—Tina Pamintuan, model, chef, restaurateur, L’incontro Ristorante Italiano; single
Assuming that I am in a position to still go dating, I don’t find anything wrong in going out with someone younger than me. If the chemistry’s there, why not? What’s important is that we get along well and we have the same appreciation of things. The relationship should be inspiring and fun and as long as there’s mutual love, trust and respect, age shouldn’t be a problem.—Antonette Villanueva Rodriguez, badminton enthusiast; married with two children
I’m two years older than my husband so yes, I would. Age is just a number. It doesn’t dictate maturity or love.—Sunshine Puey Pengson, chef, The Goose Station; married
Nope. Depends on my age. [When I’m] 50 [or older] definitely. [Now that I am still under] 40, I would rather go out with an older man since I want a man to take care of me instead of [me] taking care of a [him].—Pixie Sevilla Santos, chef-instructor, Magsaysay Institute of Hospitality and Culinary Arts; married with one daughter
Depends.—Millie Dizon, VP for marketing communications, SM; single
I’m fine as long as he’s a man who is striving for perfection in every aspect of his life. Basta not more than five years younger.—Ruby Gan, entrepreneur/power lifter; single with two adult sons
No, I want a mature man who can fascinate me with his brain. And I already have three kids, I don’t need another son to baby. Gusto ko ako naman ang alagaan.—Madge Lejano, makeup artist, single
No, because men are immature by nature. I’d rather go out with a guy my age or older.—Agoo Bengzon, beauty editor; married
Definitely yes... It will be wonderful to get fresh energy into the system. —Tessa Prieto-Valdes, columnist/host/interior designer; married
Age is nothing but a number, it’s the maturity that matters. I once dated someone who was much older than me but he turned out to be infantile.—Divine Lee, entrepreneur/ model; in a relationship
Yes, why not? As long as he can carry an intellectual conversation with me, age will never be a barrier.—Leah Salterio, publicist; regularly dating
Personally, I’d rather date a king than a prince charming.—Joyce Ramirez, publicist; single
No, they don’t know what they want in life. Older men are sexier—I married one.—Juana Manahan-Yupangco, writer; wife of sexy older man
Depends on his maturity level. I was asked out on a date by a younger guy and he took me bowling—with his family. Fail!—Maui Reyes-Drilon, advertising copywriter; married
Yes! The younger guys now have less hang-ups than those of my generation. They are all about having fun. Older, pretty women fascinate them as well. Would I marry one, though? Probably not.—Kinny Salas-Amparo, beauty columnist; married
Yes, I would consider it! Usually guys my age (29-30) are either taken or gay. It’s a little frustrating!—Kara Alberto, PR executive; single
Ten years younger? Why not? Malay mo mag-click. Pero kailangan maginoo siya pero medyo bastos, hindi KJ, hindi pa-impress at dapat may ipambabayad siya ng bill ng kinain namin otherwise magwo-walkout ako... Next, 10 years older please!”— Merci de Leon, physician; married
If I were single, why not? It’s just a date. Although I’ll do a little investigating first if it‘s really worth giving a try or not.—Hazel Vera de la Cruz, housewife
Yes, absolutely. Why not? I think I’m still too young to be called a cougar or MILF and I’m totally not an ageist! Though I’ve only dated a younger man once, I have always been friends with younger people in general so I can’t imagine holding a man’s age against him. Nowadays, age is just a number. Whatever their age, I’ll make sure to select men who are honest and genuine and who are who they claim to be. Age is no indicator of how decent a man is. —NJ Torres, publicist; single
Cougar Underwear Fashions by Wacoal
Great underwear fashions to check out from Wacoal. These are dated photos but just the same, they look fab!
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View the photos on the photographer's website. Go to : http://dtanph.zenfolio.com/p740708008
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Tuesday, August 10, 2010
Cougars, Finances, and Career
Older women dating men younger than them seems to be a current trend. “Cougars” is the popular term for such matured older women. Celebrity women who have reached a certain age are finding happiness with younger guys. Demi Moore is perhaps the leading example of this trend as she married Ashton Kutcher who was 15 years her junior. Madonna was married to Guy Richie (10 years younger) and when she split with him, she hooked up with Alex Rodriguez (15 years younger.)
Older women find younger men appealing for several reasons. Cougars tend to be successful career women. They have high level executive positions in major firms or own their own businesses. Many men their own age are threatened by their successes. Younger men, who were raised in a more egalitarian era, are likely to be supportive of the women in their lives.
Older women dating younger men also point to their partner’s youthful outlook on life. These men aren’t jaded about things like their older counterparts are.
Then there is the sex. Women peak sexually in their late 30s and into their 40s while men reach their greatest performance levels at age 19 and then decline. Many women feel that they missed out on something when they were younger and more inexperienced. The sexual prowess of a younger man is quite attractive to many women in their 30s and 40s.
But, the older women dating younger men trend works both ways. Many younger men find dating an older woman to be very rewarding.
Part of the attraction is certainly sexual. A mature woman knows her body. She knows what pleases her and she is not afraid to take the lead in the bedroom. Guys find this confidence to be quite the turn on.
Young men who date financially secure older women are also more likely to be able to chart their own path in terms of a career. There is less pressure to make money now when a woman can foot some of the bills. Many men dating cougars have found that they can return to graduate school or start a business – risks that wouldn’t be possible if they were dating women their own age.
Men are also likely to appreciate that older women are more emotionally mature and less needy. There is quite a bit less drama in a older women dating younger men relationship. After a fight, an older woman is less likely to call her sister or her best friend to rehash the experience. She’ll likely go to bed and tell her boyfriend they can discuss it in the morning.
One of the challenges in these cougar relationships is over fertility. An older women usually either already has children or doesn’t want them. Many of these relationships break up because the man wants the chance to be a father. If you can weather that storm, the relationships tend to be unusually strong.
Because of societal trends, the older women dating younger men movement is not likely to go away any time soon.
Older women find younger men appealing for several reasons. Cougars tend to be successful career women. They have high level executive positions in major firms or own their own businesses. Many men their own age are threatened by their successes. Younger men, who were raised in a more egalitarian era, are likely to be supportive of the women in their lives.
Older women dating younger men also point to their partner’s youthful outlook on life. These men aren’t jaded about things like their older counterparts are.
Then there is the sex. Women peak sexually in their late 30s and into their 40s while men reach their greatest performance levels at age 19 and then decline. Many women feel that they missed out on something when they were younger and more inexperienced. The sexual prowess of a younger man is quite attractive to many women in their 30s and 40s.
But, the older women dating younger men trend works both ways. Many younger men find dating an older woman to be very rewarding.
Part of the attraction is certainly sexual. A mature woman knows her body. She knows what pleases her and she is not afraid to take the lead in the bedroom. Guys find this confidence to be quite the turn on.
Young men who date financially secure older women are also more likely to be able to chart their own path in terms of a career. There is less pressure to make money now when a woman can foot some of the bills. Many men dating cougars have found that they can return to graduate school or start a business – risks that wouldn’t be possible if they were dating women their own age.
Men are also likely to appreciate that older women are more emotionally mature and less needy. There is quite a bit less drama in a older women dating younger men relationship. After a fight, an older woman is less likely to call her sister or her best friend to rehash the experience. She’ll likely go to bed and tell her boyfriend they can discuss it in the morning.
One of the challenges in these cougar relationships is over fertility. An older women usually either already has children or doesn’t want them. Many of these relationships break up because the man wants the chance to be a father. If you can weather that storm, the relationships tend to be unusually strong.
Because of societal trends, the older women dating younger men movement is not likely to go away any time soon.
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Be A Healthy Cougar
Is being a cougar a fad? Fad or not, women 40 plus, divorced, single or widowed are dating and marrying younger men. The American Association of Retired Persons conducted a survey in 2003 and found that 34 percent of women over the age of 40 date younger men. Out of the 3500 men and women surveyed, the study found that the main criticism from both sexes was the amount of baggage that someone in the same age group carried.
Are Older Women on the Prowl for Younger Men?
In an interview with a divorced women age 54, when asked if she would date a younger man, she responded that it had never crossed her mind, and if she did the extent of the age gap would make a difference.
She commented on a recent episode at the gym, where a young man and his friend were working out and he recognized her as the mother of one of his friends, her daughter. He came over to the treadmill where she was working out and jokingly stated that he was going to tell her daughter that she was getting her young on. She commented that she works out all the time, not with the intent of attracting a younger man, but to stay healthy and fit.
Julia Macmillan, founder of the dating site ToyBoysWarehouse.com, stated in an article titled ‘Don’t Call us Cougar," published October 1, 2009 in The Independent that she is against the title cougar. "What I really object to with the cougar word is that it is such a stereotype. It's the image the media love of the older predatory woman who 'eats' young prey." She goes on to say, "Women are looking more fabulous for longer and it's normal that guys should find older women attractive. It's always been the other way around, now things are changing!"
Cougar Fashion
The fashion of being mentally and physically healthy does not apply only to the older women. Women 40 plus are in the realm of looking and feeling healthy.
A healthy cougar is a confident woman, capable of making choices that contribute to living a quality life. She is true to herself, cautious, yet open-minded, can have fun and does not sweat the small stuff.
Being a Healthy Cougar
According to Laura Lewis, Life Fit Expert on her website LauraLewis.com, dating a younger man is not for everyone, and the relationships tend not to last. However, she states, “There is something to be said about having a wonderful, connected, loving and long lasting relationship with your soul mate”. She says if a women is looking to have a relationship with a younger man, “then dating younger men is probably a very good thing….for your health (wink!) of course”!
Cougars are older women of renaissance nature, confident, smart, fit and independent. They look for a happy, healthy companionship without the concern for age.
Be a healthy cougar!
Source:
LauraLewis.com. Is Being a Cougar Good for her Health? (accessed May 20, 2010).
Read more at Suite101: Older Women Dating Younger Men: Be a Healthy Cougar http://womens-sexual-health.suite101.com/article.cfm/a-healthy-cougar#ixzz0w8taWVz1
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