Here is something utterly hilarious from Slate.com ( http://www.slate.com/id/2294482/ )
Check it out. I never knew laughing was such a pain. :)
Dear Prudence,One of my best friends is a man I met a few years ago with whom I slowly fell in love. Despite being in our early 30s, both of us were virgins because of our religious traditions. I was profoundly disoriented when he recently got engaged to another woman after dating her for two months. After he became engaged, we had sex. Despite knowing that it was wrong, I think we're both relieved and grateful to have shared this intimate experience before our paths diverged. The fact that we had sex makes it clear that we will have to adopt a disciplined approach to our friendship in the future. The dilemma: My friend had asked me to be his "best woman" at the wedding, and I agreed. But I feel as though I should pull out in light of the fact that I've slept with the groom. He disagrees, and it might raise some uncomfortable questions for him if I were to drop out. But if his fiancee found out that he and I slept together, having me in the wedding pictures would be extremely painful. What should I do?
—The Virgin Who Became the Other Woman
Dear Ex-Virgin,
You've left me intrigued about these religious traditions of yours. Intercourse before marriage is verboten, except if it is really necessary to alleviate the sexual tension that's been building with someone other than your intended. Then, "relieved and grateful," the cheating partners stand side by side as one marries someone else. It sounds like a denomination that could find itself wildly popular with politicians worldwide. I'm going to agree with you that you should pull out of this wedding before you and the groom find yourselves again in a situation that requires the groom to pull out. I've heard plenty of testimony about the beauty of saving oneself for marriage. But your experience makes clear that sometimes it's best for two consenting adults to just hop in the sack and find out what all the fuss is about before they commit to never finding out with anyone else. It's understandable that the groom would want to take advantage of the opportunity to have slept with more than one woman in his life, but having done so, it's distasteful that he wants to include the woman he cheated with in the wedding ceremony. And, frankly, he sounds like the kind of guy who will one day be so consumed with the fact that his marriage started with a lie that he'll be moved to erase this deceit by confessing his dalliance with his best woman. At that point, you're right, the wife will probably put the wedding albums in the fireplace. The way out of this is for you to say you realize you're so traditional (virginity until marriage and all) that you would prefer your dear friend find a man to be his best man.
—Prudie
